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| photo by ana traina ~2012~ |
Date: Independence Day
Place: Captain's Perch; Home. Amen.
Day: Being independent has no day, nor time, it is a state of mind.
I am home. A brief hiatus before setting off to sea once again but right now a time of great joy, work and play and a lot of good food.
Today is the day this country declared its independence, breaking the chains of a tyranny that was choking the life out of a young and vibrant offspring.
Independence. We seek it as children, most definitely as adolescents, oft' times we seek it as adults. We witness it as revolution. On streets, in protest, sometimes in prayer. It comes to us via struggle and happens upon us as victory. However there are versions bathed in mere relief or maybe even loss. Independence, a push toward a discovery of self sustenance but at what cost?
I mention this on what has always been a solemn day for me. The remembrance of lives lost, of suffering wives and children, of oceans of tears sweeping across time and space. The sacrifices made to achieve something empowering and grand. Independence.
As I look at my son. A young adult moving toward his moment when he will move far beyond the sheets and covers of a warm bed into an unknown only independent thinkers and doers can succeed in, I think about the idea of what it means to be truly independent. He has not fought us to win some revolution, he has not defined himself as a rebel seeking a way to right the wrongs forced upon him from his tyrannical despotic parents, no. His independence is from within. You see it in how he interprets literature, sees film, dance, friends, what he believes in and how he approaches his work and life. He is truly independent because it is in his soul and and in his mind.
His mother lives by a similar momentum. She too thinks, interprets, sees in ways that can not be measured by some standard model. She provides her own book in which the rules and laws have been written not by some lawyer or politician or even revolutionary but by her own experience in a life filled with struggle and sacrifice. Her sense of independence is also from within. In her soul and in her mind.
This leads me to what I question about independence altogether though. Where does one experience the concept of "being safe" in the confines of being independent? Is it that once we achieve, whether it be forced upon us, or we come to it naturally, this elusive thing, we also lose a sense of safety? Or is it that we then create our own, "place to be safe" as we evolve into independent people.
I am not sure. All I know is this. As captain (sometimes), it is my duty to provide the ability for those around me to be independent and at the same time safe. I am taught constantly what I need to do to provide safety for it is not finances, or a word here and there that suffices. It is a presence of mind, spirit and body that allows another to feel safe in your arms. It is intangible most time, unspoken often, and most of all it is merely a gentle touch telling another all will be fine... all the swells of an ocean's tide, the leviathans of the water's depth, the storms that inevitably come our way... all will be fine.
I am home. And even though I might be a Captain, as independent upon the high seas as anyone can imagine, I come back to a home that lies within it these two magical creatures, wife and son, who miraculously, lovingly, unconditionally tell me... I am safe.
Happy Independence Day to All and may home be your next journey.